Charles Fillmore, co-founder of Unity, writes in KEEP A TRUE LENT, Lesson #1:
“I deny out of consciousness old error thoughts as if I were gently sweeping away cobwebs, and I affirm positively and fearlessly that I am a child of God and that my inheritance is from Him.”
This decision is the beginning of personal transformation, but it does require something very fundamental: awareness. It may seem a simple question but are you truly aware of your present state of mind or are you moving through your day on “autopilot,” reacting to the same things you see every day in the same way.
Does the traffic at 7:05 am always bother you?
Does the children using all the hot water every morning causing you to have a cold shower frustrate you?
What about the coworker who takes the last cup of coffee and never starts a new pot?
What about the weather? too hot? too cold?
And what about money? got enough? not being paid what you deserve?
And what about politicians and government?
All of these thoughts probably float around in your mind at one time or another.
Are you AWARE of what you are thinking and how you are feeling?
Becoming aware is the critical first step to transformation. You cannot deny anger if you are not even aware that you feel angry. But once you start tuning in to how you feel and think, you gain control of your ability to CHANGE how you feel and think.
And the trick to becoming aware is being in the present moment. As Eckhart Tolle explains, try being the watcher instead of the actor. And to become the “watcher,” try this:
1. BEGIN your day with a 20-minute period of peace..Call it whatever you like, prayer, meditation, the silence, peaceful moments. Get up a little earlier than usual. You can read inspirational stuff or focus on a positive statement like “I walk in the light of God and all is well.” Try listening to some quiet music. Stay in a private area where you will not be disturbed. Focus on your breathing, just like you were doing some exercise like squats, pushups, situps, lunges. Breathing is exercise. You will be amazed at how good it feels to breathe deeply for 20 minutes.
Then….. 2. CHECK IN every hour throughout the day. Set your watch to alert you and in that moment, do the same thing for just 30 seconds…if every hour is too much, then set the alarm for two or three hours. Just make an effort to “check in” regularly. Don’t let the whole day pass without tapping your inner presence.
You will quickly discover that you can indeed “watch yourself” as you go through the day and become more aware of when you feel good, feel at peace, or feel angry or afraid. Now with this new awareness, you can interject a powerful “denial / affirmation” like this one:
“I deny that the traffic has any power to disturb the peace of my mind and heart. I affirm that right now my heart is filling with peace and I am enjoying this present moment.”
And that is the process of denial / affirmation. Namaste.