Recently, a middle-aged man (and father of two) confessed to me, “Here is something that really surprised me about being in your program. Until I started, I didn’t realize how much fear I actually had lurking in the back of my mind. You know, little things. Stuff like: “What would I do if I were in a bar or restaurant and somebody started pushing me around? What if somebody threw a punch?” Or: what if I were in a situation and had to defend my family? Would I know what to do? Really?”